Confidence for Kids

Positive Discipline Methods

Written by bahaoui

Discipline Basics

Here are some of the basic philosophies of the discipline that are typically introduced to a child at a young age:

The basics

Good discipline is not about crafting punishments, as this does not really teach the child the actual negativity of the act that required disciplinary attention.
Instead, it really teaches the child that the stronger component in the equation usually gets to dictate and causes the weaker one to simply follow along.
Good discipline is designed to teach the child the difference between right and wrong, not just to address the wrong. Getting the child to understand self-control and socially acceptable behavior is one way to encourage the method of good discipline.
Parents will show agreement with the child’s good behavior by praise and encouragement, and will generally address bad behavior using respect, patience, and good problem-solving skills, rather than simply punishing.
Good discipline does not involve going through the process of a power struggle. When a child is much younger, it may seem acceptable to use this type of discipline, but as the child gets older, it will be much more difficult to use this style, as the older child will tend to retaliate, making an already difficult situation worse.
Good discipline is not about making the child feel insulted or pursuing degrading things to hurt them. Using styles such as yelling and name-calling will not help the child in a positive way.

Consider Where Your Child Struggles

Every child has problems in certain areas of his or her life, which may require some discipline in order to prevent these problems from getting out of hand. However, it is not always easy to understand the child’s position and problem, and developing a form of discipline without a thorough understanding will only make matters worse.
Children often mimic what they observe from those around them.

Where Help Is Needed

Thus, most of the problems a child encounters will ultimately be solved the way he or she sees his or her parents or the adults around him or her doing it.
Therefore, in order to try to help the child solve his or her problems and the methods used to find appropriate solutions, one must try to understand why the child has a problem in a particular area.

Here are some of the methods that can be adopted to implement discipline while being very aware of the areas in which the child is having difficulty:

Deciding how to handle the situation without making the problem worse. Taking steps that reinforce discipline, but at the same time, the method used must also allow the child to understand and accept that things are being done in his or her best interest.
By being firm, but accompanying it with kindness, you will give the child confidence that the parent understands his or her struggle, but does not condone the child’s behavior. Discipleship may seem like a strange concept to follow, but it will be to follow, but it will be effective in the long run because it does not aim to bring out the child’s natural spirit and joy in life.
A family meeting to address the problem will also show the child that his or her feelings and difficulties are taken into account and that they are important to everyone. This will help the child accept discipline with less chance of rebellion.

Use Age-Appropriate Consequences

To properly discipline a child, one should ideally think about how the parent should go about it and what type of action to consider. Simply devising a punishment in order to discipline a child will not be productive at all and can sometimes even be destructive.

The right discipline

Here are some guidelines that can help make the choice of discipline more age-appropriate and address the actions that necessitated the discipline in a corresponding and appropriate manner:
The parent should consider the child’s developmental stage. The parent must take into account the child’s developmental stage. This must be done on an individual basis, as there can be great differences even within the same age group.
Reading books and other materials on this topic can be helpful in pointing the parent in the right direction.
Begin to establish a good foundation for role models. Make sure the child understands from an early age what is acceptable and what is not.
It is best for the child to deal with this before it is necessary to address inappropriate behavior by developing disciplinary action, as he or she will not be confused by the sudden onslaught of the parent’s negative response.
It is also important to understand brain development in general, as it is important that the child be able to understand the disciplinary action taken and not perceive it as cruel and unwarranted.
The parent needs to be able to understand that at certain ages, the child reacts to certain things in ways that are beyond his or her comprehension, hence the need to understand the processes of brain development before developing a punishment. It will be difficult for the child to obey something that he or she can truly understand.

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